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  • #16
    My parents split up a few years ago after being married for something like 25 years and I think they pretty much spent the decade before that basically being roommates. They definitely didn't hate each other, they just stayed together because it was easier than the packing until they decided it would be nice to have their own spaces. It is the most ridiculously amicable divorce in the history of ever. My mom calls my dad to fix things at her house, we still spend most of the holidays all together, and we all regularly get together for dinner and stuff. It sort of gave me a different perspective on splitting up after a long marriage, like maybe sometimes a relationship just runs its course? Or possibly my parents are robots?

    I can't even imagine splitting things up/packing my shit and I've only been married 2 years. Just the thought of changing my address and credit cards gives me hives.


    • #17
      I'm so lazy I never even changed my last name. Sure, I'm an angry feminist and all but, truly? It just seemed like a pain in the ass!
      Itís just really honestly so tiring and emotionally draining to have to get upset over reality constantly.


      • #18
        My parents have been more or less just roommates for years and years and years and decades . . . they were high school sweethearts and got married at 19 in 1965. Never even *been* with anyone else in their entire lives. Somehow the free love of the 60s totally missed them.

        I think they stay together for the 'idea' of family. They practically live for their grandchildren, so no way would they do something that would split their time with them. My SIL's parents just separated after 35 yrs together, and now her dad only sees my niece and nephew when her mom isn't around. And since her mom is around like, all the time, he probably only sees them once a month even though they live just a few neighborhoods away. The whole situation terrified my dad. He can't stop talking about it.

        I didn't change my name either! Well, at first. I wasn't going to, because my old last name was great, and I can barely spell my new last name, but then our agency and social worker said it would be easier for our adoption docs and immigration materials if I did. So, whatever. I just suck it up and deal.


        • #19
          And your new last name is a lot longer and harder to spell than your original one! Hee!

          I have a friend who I think would have ended up divorced if she'd been infertile. She had a really crappy/mediocre marriage (in my expert opinion--bwah!) before they had kids. Now they are a dedicated unit that functions for family, if that makes sense. And his family is super tight (his parents are all up in their grill, IMO, but they seem to like that). So they will probably be all busybody with their down kids, too. But without that bond? I think they'd break-up. So hopefully their kids don't grow up to move to another part of the country. Though if both kids ended up in one place? I bet they'd follow the kids there once retired (as his parents did).
          Itís just really honestly so tiring and emotionally draining to have to get upset over reality constantly.


          • #20
            Getting back on topic: I forgot to mention that the Jared Leto round up is amazing! He seems like a tool bag.
            Itís just really honestly so tiring and emotionally draining to have to get upset over reality constantly.


            • #21
              So I am an old lady. I'll be 40 in a few weeks. *stifled sob*

              And I did not know Tumblr is filled with porn, y'all! I accidentally stumbled on an article about James Deen, a porn star who happens to be popular with young women. I had never heard of him. I think I know more about porn than the average woman in my demographic because I listen to Howard Stern and have edited several sex/romance self-help books that almost always have a resources section that requires me to check all the links and that have whole sections devoted to "romance" porn. So I've perused quite a few sites aimed at the ladies (for work, for real).

              ANYWAY, so this cat James Deen was new to me. And the article I read said something about girls sharing vids on Tumblr. One teen girl in the article focuses her blog on her two obsessions: Twilight and James Deen. PEEPS. I had no idea. So I search for James Deen on Tumblr (curiosity killed the cat).

              Article I read: What Women Want.

              So not only is there porn on Tumblr? It's porn distributed by teen girls. That kinda broke my brain. Porn is just normalized. People say it all the time but for some reason this felt like evidence. And I'm not against porn in and of itself. I just think most of it is kinda vile and degrading and (this will sound insane) poorly produced. I like production quality. Porn does not have it. It's poorly lit and poorly shot. (With the notable exception of

              So I watched one on Tumblr (RESEARCH) starring James Deen and I *sort* of get why ladies like him. He's blandly attractive (compared to the truly creepy dudes that seem to populate porn) but (and I've only seen ONE clip) I think the reason ladies like him is because he brings some sort of romance to the graphic banging. He kissed the girl almost nonstop, he looked at her face a lot, he touched her in the right places (a lot), and he seemed to have some genuine level of affection for the lady (perhaps just for the female form? but still). However, he does do the violent-y porn that grosses me out. I didn't watch any of that.

              Oh, and if you just want to jump to the dirty Tumblr bits and skip the high-minded magazine article? Go here. NOT SAFE FOR WORK, OBVSLY.

              I had to talk about this here because, what, I'm supposed to talk about this on Facebook? I found this fascinating and it made me feel older than any teen show on The CW ever could.
              Last edited by isadora; 02-14-2012, 10:35 AM.
              Itís just really honestly so tiring and emotionally draining to have to get upset over reality constantly.


              • #22
                I am amazed at how porny tumblr is. You know I track DKrug's tag on tumblr and I'll get naked pictures of her every once in a while that surprise me when I'm scrolling. I read that article you linked to, but gross people having sex is not my bag so I didn't click you nsfw link. Today's teenage girl seems very different from my days as a teenager. I didn't know any girl who watched porn when I was in high school and certainly no one who would admit to it. I mean, I'll admit I hung out with the nerdy, preppy high achievers who spent most of their free time trolling J.Crew and James Avery catalogs, but I was friends with everyone. Maybe that's the point? All these girls who share it with each other online never, ever talk about it to their real life social circles?


                • #23
                  Oh, you were looking for a timesuck? You're welcome!


                  • #24
                    Oh, you are super evil.


                    • #25
                      “I also want for you to be happy. So I want you to be with someone, whether it be Dawson or New York guy or some man you haven’t even met yet, but I want you to be with someone who can be a part of the life that you want for yourself. I want you to be with someone who makes you feel the way I feel when I’m with you. So, I guess the point of this long run-on sentence that’s been the last 10 years of our lives is that the simple act of being in love with you is enough for me. So you’re off the hook.”
                      — Pacey Witter
                      SUPER EVIL.


                      Since DK has admitted to never having seen DC, I wonder if The J feels free to steal Pacey lines to hand her from time to time.


                      • #26






                        If I could see Josh do that hangdog look over DK? I'd be okay with them breaking up. I'm not a good person.
                        Itís just really honestly so tiring and emotionally draining to have to get upset over reality constantly.


                        • #27
                          Hee! That DK was so repelled by his bad skin that the J is free to sling lines about proximity and white noise is cracking. me up.

                          Also, heh heh heh.

                          Edited because you just posted everything I saved to an unmarked folder within a folder within my external hard drive. /shame
                          Last edited by LaaLaa; 03-16-2012, 10:52 AM.


                          • #28
                            Somehow, without even really trying (particularly as compared to how desperately they push Chair) Dair is so my GG OTP.
                            Itís just really honestly so tiring and emotionally draining to have to get upset over reality constantly.


                            • #29
                              Do you have any idea how badass our gif army would have been back in the day? DAMN.


                              • #30
                                Tumblr has exploded with porn spam! It's so annoying. Both my DK and JenLaw tags are full of them and they're super gross.